This week I learned something of humility. My job requires it. Most of the time, I don’t bend to it.
I work with disadvantage children. My focus, is teenagers, ranging from 13-18. I am basically a state employed youth pastor minus the pastoring. This is a very hard thing for me to do, being as my goal is to pastor. With all that is in me, my deepest burning desire is to be a pastor.
Well, this week I made a mistake and potentially destroyed a relationship I had with a client. In doing my job, I called into question the character and sexuality of one of our older clients as he persisted in horseplaying with a younger client. The horseplay was mostly innocent, but the younger client was very uncomfortable with it as I heard him exclaim a few times, “Get the hell off me!” Initially I laughed, because to here a 12 year old stand up to a larger, stronger, older kid is pretty funny, especially when he says, “Get the hell off me!”
Well, in coming to the aid of the younger, I insulted the older. After repeatedly asking the client not to touch the other any longer, and after receiving a barrage of f-bombs for intervening, which is the norm with this specific client, I made the comment, “Alright, dude. You are the one that is touching a little kid.” At this, my client, who I hope will look to my example and begin a new path different from the one he is on, lost all confidence in my ability to build him up and support him. This was evident in the now numerous “Fat Fucker” remarks coming from his mouth.
Now, normally, this would not bother me. Normally, I would just shrug this off as another incident between me and this client. I am however, sick of these interactions being the norm. The altercation haunted me for the remainder of the day, night, and following morning. I had to salvage this kids dignity, his respect for me, and his respect for others. How can be an agent of healing empowered by the Gospel of Christ if I am one of those causing the damage?
Amputation is an effective method of medicine, but if all you do is amputate you will have nothing left.
I want people to rid themselves of all this sin and deceit and malcontent towards each other as much as the next guy. But, you cannot just cut off hundreds of years of ingrown, self-afflicted, hate for others. Many of the people and families in our communities suffer from this. Whether it be the white mans fear of black people, black peoples loathing for white people, the affluents fear of the ghetto, or the poor man’s disgust with the affluent. There are layers upon layers of problems with our current situation, be it of racial or economic influence. We all understand this. We all have grown up with certain amounts of these fears influenced by the years of conflict between each group. So-called experts would have us just cut off the conflict, much like one would amputate a gangrenous foot. Which is great, but you leave society crippled. Furthermore, you have only taken care of one piece of the problem. Our diagnosis is much more than one of racial tension, economic disconnect, or the like. Maybe we don’t have gangrene at all. Maybe there is a much bigger disease at the core of our problems. I don’t know why I keep saying maybe, when we all know the problem is a lack of love.
In the much forgotten words of dcTalk, “We all want to be loved.” And we all deserve to be loved. God has counted us all worthy of love. We may not be able to love. But by golly, my God has stated that He loves us and has made action upon that thought. There is affection for all of us. There is connection for all of us. There is communion for all of us.
Those that have accepted love, must then communicate love in all circumstances. We are agents of the Gospel of Christ, which is the Gospel of Love. Good news world, someone loves you and has done something huge for you and he wants me to communicate this to you. How? By doing huge things for you. By redeeming people and societies and destroying them with Love.
Social Injustice sucks, but we live in a world that lacks love. We can try to remedy the problems that are in our world by changing programs and the focus of governments, but when we do not respond out of love, we are merely altering the focus of the pain.
Major Payne once said, “You want me to take your mind off that leg. Give me your finger.”